Where Are You Really From, Darling?

Where Are You Really From, Darling?

Inside Capturebar – a safe space for queer people of all backgrounds.

While Turkey tightens its grip on queer lives with its “Year of the Family 2025” campaign, Berlin is seen as the opposite – a haven of pride flags and open scenes. But for LGBTQIA+ people with Turkish roots in Berlin, the reality is often more complex: belonging isn’t guaranteed. Between structural racism and underrepresentation, many navigate a constant in-between.
 
Like every day, bar owner Mehmet Balikci opens the door of Capturebar, a gay bar in Berlin-Friedrichshain, at 6 p.m. A pink neon sign marks the entrance. To the right, a wall is lined with rows of colorful underwear, and a pride flag hangs over the counter. Inside, soft lighting and tables stretching to the back create a relaxed, pub-like vibe, while the open space at the front easily transforms into a cozy dancefloor.
 
Places like Capturebar have helped shape Berlin’s image as a queer-friendly city. With districts like Schöneberg and Kreuzberg, the city has long attracted LGBTQIA+ people from around the world – around 250,000 took part in Christopher Street Day (CSD) 2024 alone. Events like Gayhane and organizations such as GLADT and MILES offer support and community for queer people with migrant backgrounds.
 
Mehmet, who has Turkish roots and was born in Baden-Württemberg, has lived in Berlin for more than 15 years. He opened Capturebar in 2019, becoming the city’s first German-Turkish gay bar owner. Berlin, he says, gave him something other German cities didn’t: room to breathe. “I think it’s the lifestyle here. I mean, you can be yourself, you can do whatever you want, and it doesn’t matter who you are or what you are,” Mehmet says.
 
A man pours beer behind the bar at Capturebar in Berlin.

Mehmet Balikci – Berlin’s first German-Turkish gay bar owner.

The Influence That Isn’t There

Asked how the Turkish government’s plans to further restrict queer rights affect him in Berlin, Mehmet says: “To be honest, personally it doesn’t affect me that much, as I’ve lived all my life in Germany. But of course it’s not nice, what’s happening there in Turkey – that the government tries to marginalize these groups.” The background: Turkey’s “Year of the Family 2025” initiative and its associated Reform Strategy Document aim to criminalize public expressions of queerness, raise the minimum age for gender transition, and tighten legal hurdles for trans people.

Koray Yılmaz-Günay, co-director of the Migration Council Berlin, supports Mehmet’s view: “I don’t think Turkish politics has a huge influence on queer life here. There’s very little new immigration from Turkey, and those who’ve been here a long time are more focused on local realities than on what’s happening in Ankara.” Although both queer people and people with Turkish roots make up a significant part of Berlin’s population, there is no reliable data on this intersection. Yılmaz-Günay explains: “Data on sexual orientation simply isn’t collected. And migration data only tracks non-German citizens by nationality. Once people no longer count as having a migration background, they disappear from the statistics.”

Mehmet is aware of his unique role as a gay bar owner with Turkish roots, but he doesn’t place much importance on it personally. At Capturebar, cultural background and sexuality are secondary. It’s meant to be a safe space for everyone – and with this approach, he hopes to create as much diversity as possible.

Not Immune to Racism

Koray Yılmaz-Günay has been active in queer and anti-racist movements in Berlin for over two decades. Today, he co-directs the Migration Council, an umbrella organization representing more than ninety migrant-led groups. Since 9/11, he observes, Muslims and migrants have increasingly been cast as the “other” – even within queer contexts.

“Almost 25 years later, we still hear the same narratives: that queerness equals progress, and immigration equals backwardness. That being queer and being Muslim – or migrant, or a person of color – are somehow in conflict,” Yılmaz-Günay says.

He also points to discrimination within the queer community itself: “There’s this tendency to say: ‘We’re the good ones – we experience discrimination, so we can’t possibly be part of the problem.’ But if bars deny entry to migrants because they’re assumed to be violent, or because they ‘don’t look gay enough’ – that’s all real. All of that exists in queer spaces, especially in gay male spaces.”

The Limits of Queer Representation

Hatice Açıköz is a writer and podcaster based in Hamburg. In her work, she speaks about asexuality, language, and how racism shaped her experience growing up in Germany. “I was born here, went to school here, so I mostly feel German – but growing up in a Turkish household affects you. Being Turkish in Germany has its effects, and I write about the effects.” She also notices exclusion within the queer scene in Germany.

On Thursday, April 10, 2025, Hatice performed at the Haus für Poesie in Berlin as part of a reading for Parabolis Virtualis, a queer poetry anthology. One of her poems dealt with the arson attack in Solingen in 1993, where five members of a Turkish family were killed. One of the victims shared her name. “So I feel attached to it, and they didn’t live so far away from where I lived at the time,” she says.

Portrait photo of a woman.

Hatice Açıköz at the reading of Haus für Poesie in Berlin.

As an asexual woman with Turkish roots, Hatice particularly criticizes the lack of representation of minorities within the queer community. “I don’t think it’s ever enough, until we have as many queer stories as we have male, mediocre, white stories,” she says. “I want deeper stories – something more than just another coming-out piece. So that the next generation doesn’t need to go through so many stupid questions and intolerance.”

 

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